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Friday, May 21, 2010

How are You Trying to Build-Up Your Home?


"A wise woman builds her home, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands."
Proverbs 14:1

Do you think this proverb is actually talking about a woman going outside and actually ripping every shingle off of her home then in fact destroying it? No, we have a metaphor here in woman who is not on purpose with her vocation as a wife and mother in effect tears down instead of building up her family and what is important to them.

What is one way you can "build a your Home"? Be conscious about what you want your house to define as well as the atmosphere that you create in it. What do you want you home to say about yourself and your family As a mom, you are the heart of your home, and as the prover 14:1 tells, us we are wise to be deliberate in how we do some. No matter how lovely our home life maybe, with some thought we can always make it better. There is a saying "Homes are built with bricks and beams but homes are built love and dreams". I have been thinking a lot of what I want for my family as I try to create a certain atmosphere in my home.

First of all, I want my home to be a place of rest for all who enter. I am trying to create a peaceful place of rest for my family. Sometimes that is hard to do in keeping the outside word at bay and from intruding into my family's home. Between all of the new technology, busy schedules, and the like, I am trying to be more deliberate in what is allowed into our home. Just because it is out there, it does not mean we have to have it , and if we choose to own it, it does not have to be accessible to all 24/7. We do have a Wii, but the kids can only play it on the weekend, and even then there are limits.

In making a place of rest, I am finding out the less clutter the better. The more stuff you have, the more it owns you. In pondering ways to have more joy in our home, I have realized that big influence in the mood of our home is the mood my husband is in when he comes home from a hard days work. Now, I have come to realize, that when comes home to a clean and orderly house, it really lifts his spirits. But on the other hand, when the house has piles of paper, books and toys thrown around, he it puts him in a bad mood - to say least! Organization is not one of my strong points, and if I put forward the effort to have everything in its place when he comes through the door, he really knows I did it for him. I think that is a spirit of service we should be aiming for.

In making our home a place of rest for my family, I also try and monitor (sometimes this is so hard to do!) what they are watching and listening to. I want our home to be a holy shelter that will protect them from the sometimes very harsh (I guess that's putting it mildly!)outside world.

If a woman does not take her duties at home seriously, her family and home will amount to much(Proverbs 11:29); but if she applies herself wisely and with great purpose, she will be a great influence many generations to come(Proverbs 24:3-4; Ruth 4:11-12).

How can you find a wise woman in today's culture? Her. Her children will reflect what there mother has taught them. Proverbs say that a neglected child will shame his mother (29:15). If everything our children should know about values and character we need to teach them. We need to teach them how to treat others, how to be neat and organized, gracious, virtuous, modesty, and service to others. The wise woman in the proverb knows that it is just as important for a mother to show in example that she gives herself in how to live a good life honoring God. Here is a link I found on the Duggars website that is contains a wonderful graph on virtues to instill in our children,as well as bible references.


A wise woman prays with and for her children. She tenderly tells them that she loves them. Shes tries to spend some special time with each of them, sharing special moments that will be etched in their memory.

The wise woman in today's culture also can be spotted when we look at her home. It clean, organized, orderly,and welcoming. The house reflects the care that is given to it(24:3-4,30-34; 31:13-27; Eccl 10:18). It would never appear that is was neglected. The atmosphere is warm, comfortable and it abounds in generosity and hospitality.


The wise woman is hardworking. She is a manager of her household, trying to bring in money into it if possible by a home business, and is wise with her money. Maybe she is a coupon clipper, carefully planning her shopping trip to make her family's money stretch to the furthers degree. She also is a very diligent lady! She rises early in the morning and stays up late. (Proverbs 31.) She is not meddling in every ones business, but is a keeper at home, (Ti 2:5, I Tim 5:13-14) She cares about her appearance, and about others.

OK, we have seen what a wise woman looks like in today's world. But what about the foolish woman? She most likely is unfocused and has no true priorities in her home. She is distracted by outside influences. She care is more proactive in finding out the current gossip then in what is going on in the hearts of her children. She may be consumed by today's entertainment orientated society, too much facebook, twitter or tv watching. She relies totally on the school system for all the her children are to know in life. She may waste time and money, and has no discipline. Instead of building her children & husband up, she tears their spirits down with her negative and sharp words.

Let us all come up with an idea and a plan for our home, let us be purposeful in the way that it is run. Time is moving swiftly, and there is a sense of urgency that we begin today in making our homes a wonderful place for our husbands to come home to, as well as a wonderful place for our children to be raised in!

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